I know the dumb saying, "if I had a dime for every time ___ happens I'd be rich!" is out played...but it's so TRUE! Because if I had a dime for every time I have been asked "when are you and Kory gonna start having kids?" I'D BE RICH! Now, don't take this the wrong way, it doesn't make me mad that people ask. It just surprised me how many times I have actually be asked! It hasn't even been a year yet...it's not a year till August 28th, which I know is coming up, but I have been asked since a few months after we got married. But really that's not necessarily the thing that I thought was weird, what I think is weird is how many people say i'm too old to not be popping out kids. I mean 25? That's too old? I beg to differ. I actually have got told twice in a week that I need to hurry up and start popping them out...their words, not mine.
But, I noticed one thing about all the people telling me I need to hurry up and have them..they already have kids themselves. People who have kids think everyone else should have kids. That's just the way the world turns. It's not just the kid having people who play this game, it's everyone. We can't help it. We are wired to want people to do, think, and act like us. If you are single, all the people who aren't want you to have a boyfriend. They start trying to set you up with their friends or tell you when they think a certain guy is cute, cause they want you to be dating like they are. (and before we go on, im not pointing fingers cause i am guilty of all these things we do to people). Once you are dating, your engaged and married friends wanna know when you are going to get engaged and married. We do this thing were we start putting time frames on things. "Oh, you guys have been dating a year...you should be engaged by now!" Everything has a time limit. Some people date too long before getting engaged and some date not long enough, just however we are viewing it at the time. Once you are married it's the famous, "when you guys gonna start having kids" questions. Believe me, you will get them daily. BUT, the people who don't have kids, they let you breathe. They don't care that you aren't having kids yet, because they aren't! It's great. Love hanging out with the non-kid having people. (but i love the kid having people too). I mean, it's just the way we are. We want people to be on the same page as us. If I'm gonna have kids you better believe I'm gonna talk my friends into it.
Now, I do this with everything. Just out of habit. I know I hassle my friend Nicole about getting engaged and her and her boyfriend probably get sick of people asking! (love ya nic) Us humans just can't help this!
I've noticed also that since I am out of my going out a lot phase I expect everyone else to be. I can't tell you how many times I say "they need to grow up, they are 25 years old and going out all the time!" But truth is that they just aren't on the same page as me, and I want them to be! Even people that we aren't friends with we feel the need to convince them to do what we do. The people who always tell me to start popping out kids aren't really even my friends! People at work that I BARELY talk to. Don't even know Kory and heck, probably don't even know his name! Basically we are all screwed because the cycle never ends. Goes from wondering why you arent dating, married, having kids..and then once you have a kid people wait about a year before the "do you think you guys will have another kid?" "when you guys going to have another kid?". So just sit back and get ready for it. And Lord FORBID you decide to not have kids. That's when you really get the weird questions or looks. Sex and the City 2, WHICH IS TERRIBLE, portrays it perfect when this couple talks to Carrie and Big and asked about kids and they replied by saying they decided kids weren't for them. The look on the other couples face was priceless. Because everyone else has kids, we just can't even believe it or understand why when people choose not to. We are all crazy.
Also, when we aren't doing something or can't afford it, we wanna talk the ones doing it out of it. Did that even make sense? Example: My friend Joey wants to buy a new car. He can afford it, and he seems to have it pretty planned out how much he would spend and stuff. But yet when he asks me about it I always try and talk him out of it. I tell him to save more so he can put a significant amount down...because that's what I am doing! I want people to suffer and save and not get cars cause i'm not. If I was getting a car, I would have text him back and said, YEAH! GET ONE!
We are all crazy.
On another note, Tasha and Karis made it back from Ethiopia safe and sound! YAY! the stories were awesome, sad, and inspiring. I might have to go with all them next year. You hear that God? I need a raise so I can go! (jk)
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